Often you hear and see people losing patience in many situations and they become agitated, frustrated, and angry. Impatience can be a problem for many people, especially in today’s world where we want everything right now, handed to us when we want it and where we want it.
Do you struggle with having impatience? Here are 10 simple lifestyle coaching skills and practices to implement in your life and they will help you to become calmer, more tolerant, and be more patient.
- First Step: Keep Track Of The Number Of Times You Get Worked Up
Take time each day to write down in a journal how often you react with impatience. Begin by tracking for one week. You will become more aware of the number of times that you get worked up and display impatience, then this will increase your desire to try and break this habit.
- Track The Situations That Trigger Impatience
As you increase your awareness to losing patience, start to notice what people, situations, or events that trigger this.
- Do you lose patience in traffic?
- How about if you feel hungry?
Now notate what exactly caused the impatience for one week and you will see that certain triggers occur more frequently than others; this is what you should focus on moving forward.
- Track Your Self-Talk During Impatient Situations
Pay close attention to what you say to yourself when you are faced with a situation that triggers impatience. Listen to what thoughts are floating through your head and write those down.
- What am I thinking?
Keep track of those thoughts for a week.
- Power Of Breathing
When you begin to feel impatient, pause, and slow your breathing by inhaling and exhaling deep breaths. Repeat the slow breathing process several times. You will reduce the tension and frustration.
- Replace Your Thoughts
After you have tracked your thoughts that arise during impatient situations, pin point any pattern of re-occurring thoughts. Review these thoughts, and then write down an alternate thought to replace it with. These should be more calming and soothing. Now replace the old thoughts, with the new ones and soon they will become your thoughts.
- Disconnect From The Situation
One of the best ways to prevent yourself from getting worked up in a situation is to walk away for a few minutes and take a break. Allow yourself to calm down, gain your thoughts on what has happened in the situation, figure out your solution and then you can return.
- Shift Your Focus
If you hold onto the frustration and impatience and do not relieve the built up pressure, you may explode. Shift your focus and your attention to something that is positive, such as your children, listen to music, call a good friend, or anything that does not cause impatience. This will alleviate the tank of pressure that has gotten you worked up.
Visualization is powerful. When you are alone or have some time for yourself, take a couple of minutes to visual how you would like to respond the next time a situation, event, or person triggers your impatience.
- How will you handle the situation?
- What will you say to yourself?
Spend some time thinking about these questions and visualize a positive outcome.
- Focus On The Small Triggers
Start by focusing on the situations that induce a minimum level of impatience, not the ones that cause you to blow up. If you start by controlling your reactions to these, and continue to practice, soon you can move to the next small trigger and the next. Overcome these one at a time, and then you will slowly be able to handle situations.
10. Practice Practice Practice!
Embrace every situation that challenges your patience. View them as an opportunity to practice your skills, because that is what it takes to become patient. The more you practice the better you will get!
Try the above lifestyle coaching steps to overcome impatience and see how happy and less angry of a person you will become. Wouldn’t you rather be around someone who is happy not always frustrated and aggravated?
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